Love as a choice

When we first met with F we were in an environment where there was a lot of space for closeness or in other words not a lot of physical space which encouraged us to get closer to each other. Somehow it felt very natural and comfortable to be closed to him. On our next date we changed surroundings and were stimulated to make conversation. We explored many interesting philosophical topics. And somehow again it felt very natural to share private opinions with him. The physical and mental connection was present from the beginning. While we were getting to know each other, I could not help myself to notice only the good things about him and was amazed how a wonderful and exceptional person he is. So it was very easy to fall in love.

For scientists love is an emotion aimed at keeping human species alive by reproducing. According to them we do not choose who we fall in love with. All three stages of love: lust, attraction and attachment are driven by our hormones described in this article.

In any case it is still in our hands to decide to let this happen and to stay with this person or not. And if we decide to stay at a certain point there is a choice to be made. The choice to love. The choice to accept each other. The choice to embrace our differences while coming across different opinions and values. The choice to focus on all the good things we can bring to each other and everything we can be grateful for. As Mandy len Catron explains in her article: “Love didn’t happen to us. We’re in love because we each made the choice to be.”

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