Love seeks complement

While getting to know each other better with F, we have noticed several times that we have different perspectives. Our way to look at situations often differs. This has raised some doubts about our compatibility. After reflecting I realized that the source of our differences comes from our distinctive personality. For example I am optimistic and he is realistic. I am disposed to take a positive view of events and expect the most favorable outcome. Whereas he shows a sensible and practical idea of what can be achieved or expected and collects information from past experiences to build his opinion. But then I understood that our differences complement each other. We can combine our visions of positivism and realism by dreaming big and then setting realistic goals. We all heard about the two theories: “identical attract” and “opposites attract”. So are they contradictory? Obviously people look for similarities in their partner to fulfill they need to be better understood and to share common interests. But I believe that like magnets people attract in a way that they complement each other. Dr. Helen Fisher analyzed the scientific aspect of it by looking closer at the four chemicals directly related to personality traits: dopamine, serotonin, testosterone and estrogen. Listen to her interesting theory here.

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